Your Aging Parents Are Far Away, The Care Doesnt Have to
Caring for aging parents may be easier
and a lot less traumatic than you think with advice from the
experts. Here are some tips from the MetLife Mature Market Institute®,
on what to do when your parents need care and theyre far
Before the need arises, its a good
idea to talk with your parents. Make suggestions but avoid dictating.
- Know your parents health history,
current medications and names of doctors and hospitals.
- Know where the important legal papers
are located. Ask if they have a will, a living will and durable
power of attorney. Know their attorneys name and phone
- Do they have long-term care insurance?
Where is the policy located? What does it cover?
- Do they have the financial resources
to obtain in-home care or nursing home care, should the need
- Learn what resources may be available.
Align with local support systems before problems arise. The town
senior center may be one source of information.
- Visit assisted living and nursing home
facilities in your parents area and in your area, should
it become necessary to move your parents.
- Depending on the situation, you may find
it appropriate to apply for a facility and place your parents
on a waiting list.
- You may want to consider obtaining a
geriatric care manager. Retaining a care manager does not imply
a lack of compassionhaving to manage work, home and family
is difficult for all caregivers.
For a fee, care managers help to ensure
that all facets of a loved ones care are addressed. Contact
the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers
for a list of qualified managers, at www.caremanager.org or call 520-881-8008.
- Call the Eldercare Locator at 800-677-1116,
9am to 8pm ET. They will provide you with the phone numbers for
your states Department on Aging and your local area agency
on aging. You can find them online at www.eldercare.gov.
- National OrganizationsAARP offers
a large variety of resources and information online at www.aarp.org or phone 800-424-3410.
- Homecare agenciesthe National Association
for Home Care can assist with location of homecare agencies in
your parents area. Find them on the Web at www.nahc.org or call 202-547-7424.
You can never be 100 percent prepared
for any caregiving situation, but organizing and researching
eldercare information and resources prior to the situation will
give you peace of mind.
The MetLife Mature Market Institute and
the National Alliance for Caregiving have compiled a publication,
Resources for Caregivers.
Long Term Care